Most of us enter marriage by way of the 'in love' experience. We meet someone whose physical characteristics and personality traits create enough electrical shock to trigger our 'love alert' system. The bells go off, and we set in motion the process of getting to know the person. The first step may be sharing a ham-burger or steak, depending on our budget, but our real interest is not in the food. We are on a quest to dicover love. We arrange for a few more 'together' experiences, and before long the level of intensity has increased to the point where we find ourselves saying, "I think I'm falling in Love." Eventually we are convinced that it is the 'real thing', and we tell the other person, hoping the feeling of reciprocal. If it isn't, things cool off a bit or we redouble our efforts to impress, and eventually win the love of, our beloved. When it is reciprocal, we start talking about marriage because everyone agrees that being 'in love' is the necessary foundation for a good marriage.
OUR DREAMS BEFORE MARRIAGE ARE OF MARITAL BLISS...
IT'S HARD TO BELIEVE ANYTHING ELSE WHEN YOU ARE IN LOVE.
As it's peak, the 'in love' experience is euphoric. We are emotionally obsessed with each other. We go to sleep thinking of one another. When we rise that person is the first thought on our minds. We long to be together. Spending time together is like playing in the anteroom of heaven. When we hold hands, it seems as if our blood flows together. We could kiss forever if we didn't have to go to school or work. Embracing stimulates dreams of marriage and ecstasy.
Our dreams before marriage are of marital bliss: 'We are going to make each other supremly happy. Other couples may argue and fight, but not us. We love each other.' Ofcourse, we are not totally naive. We know intellectually that we will eventually have differences. But we are certain that we will discuss those differences openly: One of us will always be willing to make concessions, and we will reach agreement. It's hard to believe anything else when you are in love. We will always have the wonderful feelings that we have at this moment. Nothing could ever come between us. Nothing will overcome our love for each other. We are enamored and caught up in the beauty and charm of the other's personality. Our love is the most wonderful thing we have ever experienced.
OUR DREAMS BEFORE MARRIAGE ARE OF MARITAL BLISS...
IT'S HARD TO BELIEVE ANYTHING ELSE WHEN YOU ARE IN LOVE.
As it's peak, the 'in love' experience is euphoric. We are emotionally obsessed with each other. We go to sleep thinking of one another. When we rise that person is the first thought on our minds. We long to be together. Spending time together is like playing in the anteroom of heaven. When we hold hands, it seems as if our blood flows together. We could kiss forever if we didn't have to go to school or work. Embracing stimulates dreams of marriage and ecstasy.
Our dreams before marriage are of marital bliss: 'We are going to make each other supremly happy. Other couples may argue and fight, but not us. We love each other.' Ofcourse, we are not totally naive. We know intellectually that we will eventually have differences. But we are certain that we will discuss those differences openly: One of us will always be willing to make concessions, and we will reach agreement. It's hard to believe anything else when you are in love. We will always have the wonderful feelings that we have at this moment. Nothing could ever come between us. Nothing will overcome our love for each other. We are enamored and caught up in the beauty and charm of the other's personality. Our love is the most wonderful thing we have ever experienced.
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